First Impressions Matter
Let’s pretend, just for a moment, that you’re about to try and book a date with your dream companion.
They caught your eye, somehow, and you can’t stop thinking about what it would be like to meet them. Maybe it was their fiery personality on Twitter, or their sensual grace that somehow shines even through the computer screen.
Whatever it is, let’s say you’re feeling ready to make your grand introduction. This is such an exciting step, but can also be incredibly nerve wracking! Putting in effort is worth it, though - many providers don’t meet with every single person that emails or texts them. In fact, a lot of introductions get sent to the trash for a variety of reasons.
But that’s okay, there’s hope! We’ll go over what makes some introductions better than others, and how to ensure yours stands out above the rest.
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First, do your research.
This includes reading their ads, website, and socials. This is the best way to determine compatibility and legitimacy - do they have an established online presence? do you like their personality? Are they within your budget? Are they in your area, or do they tour or offer FMTY?
Many providers have a FAQ page along with written policies and processes for you to get a lot of your questions answered. This step is important because it displays interest, effort, and a proactive streak. These are all very desirable traits in a suitor!
Conversely, asking a bunch of questions in your initial email that are answered on their website shows that you haven’t taken the time to do your part. Considering the time, energy, and money expended to post ads, build a website, and write the copy solely to help you out, many providers may not be inclined to hold your hand through the process and may decide to save their energy for someone who actually reads their site.
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Next, find their preferred method of contact.
Do they prefer text? Email? Booking form only?
I, for instance, only accept emails or booking form submissions. And yet you wouldn’t believe the amount of emails I get that just say “hey i cant find ur number on ur ad plz txt me at 313-867-5309”. Needless to say, those go immediately to the junk folder.
Also, give them time to respond! We have full lives, other clients, and are not glued to our keyboards 24/7. Sending a follow up message before we can get to your message can be perceived as irritating and demanding. Patience is a ~ virtue ~
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Be succinct.
No matter what their preferred method of contact, please be clear about what you’re seeking. Here are a few very basic examples of the types of introductions, and I’ll go over why they’re great or not after.
Example A: “Hey gorgeous I’d love to meet you!!!”
Example B: “I’d like to book a date. Not sure how long yet. Weekdays are usually good for me, but some weekends work too. I was thinking we could grab dinner, maybe? Or lunch, depending. If I end up booking a shorter date maybe just stay in with a glass of wine. What do you think?”
Example C: “I’m interested in booking a four hour outcall dinner date next Thursday. If you’re available, I would love to meet at 6pm at The Best Steakhouse in Detroit, and then back to The Best Hotel where I am staying while in town” (please note that dates do not need to be at the best steakhouse and hotel to be enticing, these were used for comedic purposes only. The point is it’s clear what they’re looking to book, when, and for how long).
Example A is, naturally, going in my trash folder. It isn’t even request of any kind, it’s just a statement.
Example B has me rubbing my temples and brewing tea before (or if) I respond, because I can already tell I’m in for a lot of back and forth emails if I want to get anything planned. I’m probably already preparing myself for the date being more draining than usual, too, since an introductory email is often a good indicator for how the date will go.
Example C has me excited to start screening and get past these preliminary emails. Honestly, I’m already thinking about how to shower them with affection once we’re back at the hotel after dinner, since I’m thinking the date is likely going to go as smoothly as their first email did.
We like C. Be like C.
Screening.
Screening is simple. Honestly. It’s only difficult if you make it that way. Most providers have their screening requirements posted. If you’re not willing to meet those requirements, just don’t contact that provider. Ever. Period. No ifs, no ands, no buts. It’s uncouth, rude, and a waste of everyone’s time (including yours!). You are not the exception. Nobody owes you an exception. Find another provider who has a screening process you’re comfortable with or don’t see providers at all. End of story.
If you screen without hassle it shows that you respect us and are cognizant of the risks we take. You help alleviate some of those concerns by being transparent and clear.
Conversely, claiming you don’t want to screen shows that you do not care for our safety, are blind to the very real dangers we face, and are potentially/likely hiding something for a nefarious purpose.
A little about you…
Many companions (myself included) have a section on their booking form for you to tell a little about yourself. Please note that this is merely an introduction, and there is no need to write a full essay. We’ll have plenty of time to get to know each other in person!
This is also not a place to write erotica, either. Using explicit language will almost certainly send your message straight to the trash.
Keep it brief, but not too brief. Personally, I’m not interested in responding to someone who completes this section by saying “45 year old white male. Athletic businessman.”
How blah, right?
Instead, tell us about your hobbies, and your interests. I love hearing about the things you find enjoyment in, and am excited to learn more about you when we meet in person! I also appreciate when people tell me why they chose me. Maybe we have something in common that I wrote about or posted about. Having a shared interest is always a wonderful thing :)
Respect our time.
When a booking request is clear, direct, and succinct, I am truly excited for that date! I haven’t expended a ton of emotional and mental energy during the booking process, and I’m ready to bring all of my energy and excitement to that first date.
Alternatively, loads of back and forth emails and off-topic communication drains away energy that could have been invested on you in person. So, would you rather use up all of someone’s anticipation before you even see them, or would you prefer them to be full of enthusiasm during your date? The choice is yours.
To be honest, I can understand why plenty of people would want to chat a bit before actually meeting. Planning a date is exciting, and if you planned in advance, there may be some time to wait before you can actually meet each other. But there are several reasons why many providers seem straight to the point and not very chatty via email, even though they are bubbly and warm when you meet them in person.
Firstly, emails are admin work. If you’re booking a provider who offers in-person services, they likely prefer to get to know you in person during your date. There are providers who specialize in text only relationships with their clients, and that is an option if that’s more your style! But that’s likely not on the table with in-person providers (although some do offer texting packages, and this will usually be on their website.)
Another reason is that there are fantasy bookers galore. These are people who send email after email after email with no intention of booking - they just enjoy the attention and the excitement of planning a date. Some of them are rather good at their ruse, and can drag out a conversation for some time “working out the details” before disappearing. This is a big reason why many providers won’t even discuss availability until screening is completed, or answer a bunch of questions without a deposit - we’re saving our time and energy for people who are serious about booking and respectful of our time.
So if a provider seems a bit impersonal via email or text, know that it’s not always personal, and it’s not always you! It’s normal to have questions and want to chat, but try and get your questions answered from FAQ sections on their site and book enough time to cover all of the topics you want to chat about :)
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A companion’s inbox can be a wild place, but that’s where you’ll have the chance to make a phenomenal first impression! Just do your research, contact them in their preferred way, be succinct, screen, and show them a glimpse of who you are.
Save the rest for your first date :)