Pillow Prince

When it comes to pleasure, reciprocity is a word that often comes to my mind. The ebb and flow, the give and take. The satisfaction we receive from satisfying each other.

Sometimes I love the treat of sharing time with a generous lover. Someone who plays me like an instrument, coaxing moans from my throat and making my thighs tremble through waves of pleasure. The absolute bliss of laying back, comfortable as can be, and just indulging in sensations not of my own making. 

Being a pillow princess from time to time is lovely. And it’s undeniably a gift. 

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I’ve been noticing many men that I meet are not as used to receiving this gift. Often, they’re more accustomed to being on the giving end. 

And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Some people just don’t like kicking back and receiving for a change. 

However, I’ve found that some of my lovers actually love it - they just haven’t had as much of an opportunity to try it. To lay down and allow themselves to be taken care of, for a change. 

To be a “selfish” lover. A pillow prince, if you will. 

There’s a level of vulnerability there. And perhaps a shift in self-perceived expectations.

For example, I have a regular lover who self identifies as a “giver”. Almost every time we met, he set out to make me a happy little pillow princess. Sometimes the effort was more 50/50, but the balance never shifted beyond that. And oh, was it wonderful. But as time went on, the concept of reciprocity only grew in the back of my mind. As lovely as it was, I wanted to give back. 

When I saw him next, I asked if they were open to the idea of changing it up a bit. To lay back and let me take control of their pleasure for a change. Although out of their comfort zone, they were open to giving it a try.

And my, oh my. How deliciously those tables turned. 

We spoke about it after, tangled up in the sheets and each other. They expressed that their whole life they had felt some pressure to perform. To take charge, and prove themselves as a good lover by ensuring their partner has the time of their life. They told me that they love being a “giver” and find genuine satisfaction in it. 

They also said how liberating and luxurious it felt to be a pillow prince, even just for a little while. To shed those preconceived notions they had for a moment. To indulge in being sensually cared for.

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It brings me joy to provide that experience to my lovers.

I adore when someone allows themselves to melt beneath me, languid without a care in the world. Laying back with their hands behind their head, eyes closed or at half-mast while I take care of their needs. The visual epitome of being fully at ease.

So if you haven’t tried it yet - I softly encourage you to treat yourself to an evening of selfishness, even if it’s just for a taste. To allow me the satisfaction of satisfying you. It’s a beautiful thing.

To all the pillow princes and the “givers” who want to try something new:

This one’s for you. <3

Xo
Evelyn